💬 Conversation Coach

Avoid questions that can be answered with "yes" or "no". Instead of "Did you have a good day?", ask "What was the most interesting part of your day?". That invites a story.

Don’t be a reporter. After they answer, add a personal perspective: "Oh nice! That reminds me of a time when...". Trade stories, not just information.

Humor is a strong social glue. A good joke or a funny observation can loosen things up. Pay attention to their style; avoid sarcastic or negative humor at the beginning.

A playful tease (e.g., "Oh, so you’re that kind of person, got it 😉") can create attractive tension. The key is to keep it subtle and positive. Don’t insult—play.

The most attractive quality is having passions and goals. Don’t make the other person the center of your universe. Their reply is a bonus to your day, not the reason for it.

Avoid sending messages much longer than what you receive, or asking 3–4 questions in a row without them asking something back. A conversation should be a dance, not a monologue.

Avoid over-the-top compliments or questions like "Did I upset you?" or "Are you still there?". Confidence means assuming things are fine until proven otherwise.

You don’t have to wait for them to end the chat. Saying "This was great, but I have to run. Talk later!" shows you have a busy life and respect your time.

"Ok", "haha", "fine" are conversation killers. If you get one, don’t panic, but avoid giving one yourself. Always add something: "Haha, that’s good! Speaking of that..."

If you ask question after question without sharing anything about yourself, it will feel like a job interview. The golden rule: "Question – Answer – Comment/Personal Story".

Nobody wants to be someone’s emotional trash can at the first interaction. Keep a positive vibe. You can be vulnerable later, after a connection is built.

Avoid huge paragraphs, especially if they reply briefly. Breaking ideas into 2–3 smaller messages is much easier to read. A text wall can be intimidating.

Emojis add emotion, but don’t overuse them. One emoji at the end of a sentence is perfect. A funny GIF, at the right moment, can be brilliant. Mirror their style.

An "Ok." (with a period) feels cold and final. An "Ok!" feels enthusiastic. An "ok..." feels hesitant. Be aware of the tone you send through punctuation.

Use natural language, like you would speak. Slang or abbreviations are fine if the other person uses them too, but avoid them at first so you don’t seem unprofessional.

Using all caps (CAPS LOCK) is the equivalent of shouting. Use it very rarely, only to emphasize a word in a funny way—never for a whole sentence.

Don’t send consecutive messages. Match their pace. If they reply after 5 hours, don’t reply in 5 seconds. Your goal is to move the conversation into real life.

Let it die or, after a few days, try a re-initiation message based on something concrete: "Hey, I just saw [something] and thought of you. How have you been?". No pressure.

Don’t panic and do NOT send a second message like "??" or "hey". The best move is to do nothing. Assume they’re busy. If it happens constantly, that’s a sign.

If replies become short and boring, change the topic to something more stimulating or ask a playful question. If it doesn’t work, it may be time to invest less energy.

The ideal moment is after a smooth conversation, when the vibe is at its peak. Usually, after 3–5 days of consistent texting is a good window so you don’t seem rushed or indecisive.

Be specific and low-pressure: "I’d love to continue this over coffee. Are you free Tuesday or Thursday afternoon?". A concrete plan is better than "we should hang out sometime".

Don’t take it personally. Reply casually: "No problem, I get it! Maybe another time." Don’t push. If they’re interested, they’ll come back with an alternative when they feel comfortable.

If meeting in person feels like too big a step, suggest an alternative: "How about a quick call tonight? It’s more personal than texting." It’s an excellent in-between step.